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Cuddle time

It’s that time of the year, where the weather begins to dip. The wind comes back and the air is full of frost. Sweater, scarves and jackets help keep us warm during the day. Which is great, because Lord knows I love sweaters and vest and all things argyle. The night time though…which is supposed to be the right time, but it’s the wrong time in the fall/winter to be sleeping alone. In my younger days I was very open with me bed, someone new every night. I had repeats of course but I did enjoy the thrill of waking up to a new face. Hey I like to spoon and cuddle.  DON’T JUDGE ME! The body heat of two (platonic) friends kept the heating bill low and me with a smile. The more the merrier, one night I had as many as five people in my bed. The world needs more cuddling. I have learned now after I have gotten older that I can’t just allow anyone and everyone in my bed. Did you know some people aren’t satisfied with just cuddling? And they want to do nasty unchristian like things to me in the bed. “Excuse me sir, just because I have on my bra and panties doesn’t mean I want to do anything. The bed is for sleeping and that’s what’s I plan on doing.” Well after a couple “miscommunications” I decided to close my open bed policy. This has left me with a dilemma, how do I keep warm on cold nights in Philly? The heating bill last winter was ridiculous $150-200 for just me! I have come up with a solution…stuffed animals. I know sounds easy right, but the key is to attach an electric heating pad to the stuffed animal. Perhaps I will even get a recording of some light snoring to lull me into dream land. This gives the feeling of another person being present in my bed, without having to explain to them we aren’t having sex.  Hopefully until I have that human touch next to me, this will do. Let’s pray the heating pad doesn’t start a fire while I am sleeping.

Good day my Tabians and I wish you very warm nights


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Posted by on October 20, 2008 in Learning bout Tab!, Randomness


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I decided…

I move at my own speed.

My parents learn early on that I won’t do anything unless I am ready to. Until I am moved to do it.

The million ads for the upcoming election, guilt speeches, merchandise and political coverage has not swayed me or made me want to decide to vote for a candidate.

I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t moved. I didn’t care.

Not that I care now about either candidate.

But what I do care about is Black People.

I heart America.

But my blood flows for and because of Black people.

With that being said, I could not attend the Congressional Black Caucus. See thousands of black people on their grind, with their power suits and blackberry’s working for the advancement of my race. Go to seminars about the problems/solutions for the black community. What was needed in our community, what was working and what was failing? Hear my people, see my people and not wonder what I was doing to help our cause.  Be motivated by the call to arms, to fix our community.

Walk around and see the Obama pins attached to the suits, the Obama paraphernalia being sold, the Obama chants and not feel the enthusiasm of my people. I haven’t seen black people this excited and united since the OJ verdict. This is even more significant because this excitement didn’t involve the penal system.

So I decided.

I decided that if voting for this man would energize black people, instill a sense of pride and bring “hope” to my people.

That if voting for him makes some black boy believe that he can be anything in the world. That he can achieve greatness. That when a  Black parent tells their child they can be anything in the world they believe it. That if voting for Barack shows America that a functioning black family is the norm rather than the exception. If it makes one black man think about marrying his girlfriend or baby mama,  cause he wants to make her his “Michelle”, his life partner cause Barack did.

I argued that the only reason that black men supported Barack is because they saw him as an extension of their black masculinity and that it was a purely ego induced support. So what? My Black brothers have been beaten down so  much they deserve a little ego stroking, rebuild some of the confidence that was lost by the years of emasculation they endured by the popular culture. I love the pride that shines through them when they speak of Barack.

I didn’t have this crazy change of heart and suddenly become his biggest supporter. I am not fully over the Jeremiah Wright incident and the symptoms of Bitchassness, Barack displayed.

I will be honest. The size of his ears freaks me out, although I know he can’t control the size of them. I would still really like if he got them pin closer to his head.  It will be hard watching those ears on presidential addresses if he does get elected.

I don’t agree with Barack on a lot of issue. I still believe that atmosphere surrounding him is of messianic proportion. That he can’t possible do all the things that people expect and save us from the evil republicans. But if he does just 2% of what people expect, inspired just one kid, or better yet spark the mind of someone and commit them to change the world. Then that’s more than enough in my book.

I love Black people, more then I love my political affiliations. I hold Black people closer to my heart then I hold particular election issues. So if my people believe that Obama is the right man for us and the nation, that’s more than enough for me.

I won’t be difficult, I won’t be different. I choose us instead of me. So if Barrack ends up being the worse president ever, I will be ok. Because sometimes if the ship is going to sink it’s better to go down with everyone, then to be safe on the shore alone.

Everyone has their own reasons why they vote for a candidate and these are mine.

I ordered my absentee ballot.

It’s official. My vote is with Barack Hussein Obama.

He doesn’t get a free ride. He still must be held accountable for his policies and actions by the black community, the nation and even the rest of the world. We must challenge him in order to assure he stays on point. But he does get my vote.

Don’t expect me to be wearing any Obama merchandise though….

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Posted by on October 7, 2008 in Learning bout Tab!, politics, Them Black people


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